Author: Laney “Country Cutie” Cates
We live in the era of. cheeky apocalypse. Yes, that’s right. It’s a world where men are trading traditional masculinity for soft, cuddly femininity. And I’m not just talking about getting a manicure or wearing a silk robe for a late-night Zoom call. This change will go deeper. This is a cultural mindset that changes the way men court, love, and even think about their place in relationships.
But wait, before you send me hate mail, let me be clear. This is not an attack on gentle, emotional men. Far from it. This is a commentary on the blurring of traditional gender roles and whether men as a whole are doing enough to remain essential in an increasingly independent world.
For those of you who have just woken up from a social media hiatus, let’s briefly explain the term “bizarre apocalypse.” According to Urban Dictionary (the trusted millennial bible):
“Traditional gender roles have chaotically, often comically, collapsed, women are empowered, men are overly emotional, and everyone is wondering who is in charge anymore.” is.”
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Basically, it’s the end of the world as we know it. The line between who should be “in charge” and who should be “submissive” has officially become blurred. And honey, we’re living it.
Let’s be honest: Women have made tremendous progress over the past decade. From taking full control of their bodies to dismantling societal expectations of how they should behave, modern women are blazing a path that doesn’t require men’s approval. Women unapologetically own their sexuality (and rightfully so), earn their own money, and take control of their relationships. But amidst this wave of independence, questions remain: Have women become too independent? Or are men just too lazy?
Cue a cringe-worthy moment. Men seem to walk around understanding that their place in a woman’s life is as arbitrary as an “add to cart” button on a fashion website. Case in point: April Jones.
For those who don’t know, April Jones is the mother of Omarion’s children and was rumored to be Taye Diggs’ girlfriend at one point. She is a popular reality star and is no stranger to social media attention. April recently went live on Instagram and called a man and asked him to come meet her – hoping she To pay for my flight ticket. Please listen.
Now, let me be clear: there is no shame in women paying for it themselves. But the fact that this man, in his infinite wisdom, thought that this is a reasonable request in 2024 is an example of how some men can skip the courtship stage and jump directly into love. That tells you everything you need to know about what you think. Netflix and Chill scenario.
So what happened? April wasn’t having that. She blames the man for his lack of effort and says that as a grown woman with her own business, the days of men expecting women to chase them, demand their attention, and pay for their seat at the table are over. emphasized the fact that That’s all. And honestly, she’s not the only one saying that.
Let’s talk about courtship — yes, the age-old concept of men courting. actually Put some effort into it before asking a woman to let her guard down and invest in him emotionally (and perhaps financially as well). Are men courting yet? Or are we too busy swiping left and right and jumping from one situation to the next?
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At first glance, many men forget what it means to “court” a woman. they are too busy on netflix and horrifying To understand the importance of showing up to a date with something more than a half-hearted “Do you want to go?” Midnight text. And even worse, women do not have I sit and wait for the phone to ring. women are here get your own bag And I wonder why there is a need to offer loyalty or exclusivity when there is so little effort on the part of the other party.
Let’s break it down: Men, here are the bars. low. We say in a low voice, “If you try, you won’t be able to stumble.” Genuine effort, thoughtful attitude and clear sense what you want — That will make him a truly indispensable man in 2024.
However, this is not the case and many men seem content with their complacency. Perhaps they think that women always “need” them for something. Maybe they are resting on their laurels. Once upon a time, they went from relationships to… well, sex. But in 2024, women will be the gatekeepers to their own happiness, success, and sexual agency. If you want to be the “man” in her life, you better show her what makes you valuable beyond a shared Netflix password.
Let’s be real. When men don’t bring more than themselves to the table, they quickly become obsolete. Women no longer need a man to “save” them, but they do need someone to add something to their already fulfilling lives. The days of transactional relationships where “if you will take care of me, I will take care of you” are rapidly disappearing. The new relationship game requires men to be innovative and emotionally available. And, dare I say it? active Tracking.
The truth is, ladies, this dating pool is a complete mess. It’s like drinking toxic sludge. hunger games. Everyone takes a sip and suddenly everyone is in a fight for survival. You win a prize and somehow you’re supposed to feel There’s nothing special about it. Guys who can’t step up? They’ll just end up swimming in that toxic pool, hoping someone will notice their charming smile and smooth way of speaking.
it is clear. The dating pool includes a little something. toxicity among them. And to be honest, I think everyone is swimming in it at this point. Men, you must put aside your emotions and make a serious effort to prove why you are worthy of this title. prize. Women are getting used to carrying their own bags and doing things by themselves. So if you want to be indispensable, just looking pretty is not enough. In 2024, women are winning. Either rise to the occasion or be left behind with other faded “Netflix & Chill” propositions.
But good luck. Everyone, stay safe.
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